Why So Sad?

The title of this post is from one of my favorite songs in Hamilton. Confession, King George is my favorite in the musical. His question is really quite revealing about the King in this song, because it captures how disconnected from reality the King was with the Colonies. He did not understand the people, and by the power of his position as Regent of his empire, he didn’t consider it something he had to care about.

I find this line of thinking common amongst those with some claim to power. We all see it I am sure. In the intellectual circles I run in its almost always related to church or theology. It’s common in the big church pastor who doesn’t quite get why people no longer want to fund the building program. It’s common in the Calvinist who cannot understand why the Arminian doesn’t understand how right he is (and vice versa). It’s common in the Protestant who cannot fathom how Catholics can claim Christ at all. It’s common in the Evangelical who cannot understand that other Evangelicals did not vote for Trump, and that some even voted for Hillary.

Lord Acton said “that power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” Unfortunately this seems to be proven true again and again, and while I care about the dismissing of those who are “less than” in most facets of the world, I care more about it in the Church. When we consider ourselves more important than others, and we have to if we view ourselves as powerful, we cut off discussion with those who are not up to our level. We do not make headway, and we fracture the diverse Body of Christ. That’s why we see so many people screaming at others about how right they are, and the other people tuning them out (or screaming back), and no dialogue or understanding actually happens.

The Christ-follower who wants to be like Jesus should heed His example: He humbled Himself, removing Himself from a position of power, and died on a cross. This complete emptying of Himself is called the kenosis and is taken from that Greek word in Philippians 2:7, where Paul said that Jesus emptied Himself of all His divine attributes. Jesus gave up power to reconcile humanity. He emptied Himself for us.

As Christ-followers, we have no power compared to what Jesus gave up. Colossians 1:15-20 explained Jesus power, and the Book of Hebrews exalted how much better Christ is than all other things. Why is it that we cannot condescend to those who are “less than” us, showing them grace and love, and pursuing reconciliation and unity? That’s what Jesus prayed for His church, unity; so why is it so easy to pull a King George? We look at those “peasants” beneath us without trying to understand them, or include them in our groups. Why is it so difficult to disagree and remain friends?

It took the King fighting a war to finally get that the American problem wouldn’t just go away, and the people didn’t see him as their superior. What is it going to take for us to lay down our self-perceived power (or power given to us by others) for the sake of the Gospel of love?

Maybe we would benefit by continually asking ourselves “what would Jesus do?” when it comes to understanding others and remember what He did do to reconcile humanity. I think of myself as a vile, horrendous offender of God, who disagrees with Him continually, but is loved and redeemed regardless. I have begun to pray more fervently the same thing that Jesus prayed for us: unity. God made for Himself a diverse Body, perhaps it’s ok that we do not all see things the same way.


Social Media Survival Guide

I’ve been on social media for a while and I have figured out a few rules. These rules are not hard and fast, but are an excellent way to make sure that you are doing the Dale Carnegie thing and winning friends and influence people. These rules are especially true if you are trying to be like Jesus.
1 – There is no room for differing opinions, if you do not agree with everyone else 100%, you are an idiot and should be called all the vile names. You are barely above a cave dweller. Especially if your opinion is contrary to the ever-changing landscape of socially acceptable norms.
2 – You will NEVER change your mind through well-reasoned discussion and thought, your prior convictions (especially if not based in fact), can never be changed.
3 – You must never believe the motives of a person are pure, they are always secretly out to destroy you, so you must respond back with as much venom and vitriol as possible.
4 – You are defending the rights of whomever you are supporting to the death. Key Board Warriors are required. If you cannot be one, you are not ready for social media.
5 – Important issues must be pushed aside to discuss and debate the immaterial, like if someone thinks its OK to stand or sit.
6 – Sharing about how  you are praying for something is just like actually helping.
7 – God really cares if you share stuff about him on Facebook and do not live it out in real life. The meme that says you have to share if you aren’t ashamed of Him IS REAL LIFE PEOPLE.
8 – This is life or death people. Engage and defend. This will really make a difference in people’s lives!

Are We the Children of God?

If you go to church for any length of time, you will inevitably hear a sermon series on the “Beatitudes.” The first time I heard this word I was a bit freaked out, because that is not a word. However, I quickly learned that church people make up words all the time, and this was no more egregious then many of my personal inventions. The Beatitudes are the first few verses found in the Sermon on the Mount. Jesus was teaching people about the Kingdom and trying to make tangible something that was completely foreign to humanity.

Favorite preacher passages are ones like “Blessed are the meek…Blessed are the poor in spirit…Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,” because their applications are direct. The meek gain strength in the Lord, the poor in spirit get the Kingdom, and those who hunger and seek for righteousness are satisfied by their pursuit. One of the more difficult “Beatitudes” to preach is this one “Blessed are the peacemakers…” Why is that so hard? It seems like Christians should want to be peacemakers. Jesus brought peace to humanity by becoming human, and dying a criminal’s death. That’s what Christian believe. However, it seems that in this day and age peacemaking is not only tough to preach, but it’s extremely tough to live. In this modern day of hot takes, indignation, outrage at all disagreement, and the need to paint everyone we interact with on social media as either Satan or the Second Coming, we have lost the desire to make peace. The gentle answer that turns away wrath. The ability to lovingly disagree or better yet, NOT engage (It’s an unwritten maxim of social media that the best fights are the ones not entered into). The ability to look at someone we love, who is representing beliefs we absolutely abhor, and recognizing we still love them and want to build peace not relational destruction. Is there ever a time when peacemakers were more needed? In this divisive and binary climate, don’t we believe that Jesus would want that from His people?

Maybe it’s just the circles I run in online, but I find that “His “people” are some of the most nasty, intolerant, and totalitarian people out there. My friends, how can that be? How can we not lovingly make peace in a world where making peace would be an act of radical obedience? The promise Jesus gave for the peacemakers was this: that they would be called Children of God. Was Jesus saying that His real people would be those who fostered peace, not conflict? Jesus did advocate conflict, but only for the sake of the Gospel. Too often we stoke the fires of rage in others for politics, or feelings, or social awareness; and we miss the point of engaging with the Gospel (which is love and peace, and the only answer to the human condition).

I know it’s difficult, especially when confronted with those who are so virulently against all things godly. However, for Jesus’ sake, don’t hit send on your “pièce de résistance” of a post that will cripple your opponent; give them the love of the Gospel instead. If we are really His children, shouldn’t that be our normal response?


The Pursuit of Happiness

Many of y’all will know our story. We have been in ministry for many years, and our last church was forced to shut its doors over a year ago. For the past 14 months, Rachel and I have been praying and seeking Gods direction for our family. We have been blessed to be in a local church we could serve in, and rest a bit to find this next stage in our ministry. It’s been a trying time, and we have finally come to the end of a long road and are ready to step into our “next.” 

We have been looking at taking another church for some time, we said no to some, some said no to us, but ultimately no place has turned out to be the right place. Rachel and I have taken quite a long time to pray and seek the Lord to figure out what we had to walk in next.  Out of that time we have really felt the Lord pushing us in the following ways: we are going to pursue life in a location that we feel the Lord has laid on our heart for sometime now, the greater Gainesville, GA area. We have felt a pull there for about a year, and have not pushed forward into it because we were still looking for a church to pastor.  We have decided that the Lord gave us this area because He has prepared us for life and ministry there. We don’t necessarily know why, but it is a place we undeniably know we need to be. Our entire family is ecstatic over this decision, which is rare when you have 6 people with 6 different opinions, who are not shy about expressing them! 

The obvious question for us, of course, was what are going to do there? This question has been a daunting one to me for sometime. I have two great passions in ministry: teaching and building Gospel community. I have thought and felt that those two existed in isolation. In fact, I asked my brother in law recently if he saw me as more of a professor or a pastor and he said “be both,” which has been a catalyst for changing thought patterns in my mind. God wants to use both of those passions that I have in our next place of service. 

There are two things we are going to be working on: the first being I am going to finish my PHD and pursue a professorship in the Atlanta metro. One of my goals as a pastor and teacher had always been to empower young people to be thinking Christ-Followers who are able to engage the Scripture and culture for the Gospel. By instructing those who are pursuing a higher education, I will be able to pour in knowledge and experience to the next generation of ministers. This is something that I believe all ministers need to do, and it’s a great outlet for my gifts. 

Secondly, we are going to be city missionaries seeking to build and establish Gospel centered communities in our area. We have served in church planting for many years, and using some of that philosophy, combined with the philosophy of being outward living disciples, we are going to seek to be catalysts of starting Gospel centered communities. This is not typical church planting, but gospel immersion. This is a slow burn strategy to engage people with the idea of Kingdom and gospel mission, and if the Lord births a church or churches out of it, it will be amazing. We want to see people on mission for Jesus, and will see how God uses that to grow His kingdom. 

This type of ministry dovetails with our gifts, and a ministry Rachel is pursuing to instruct women on how to build deep and abiding relationships, and training churches to accomplish this task in their midst. We will leverage our passion for adoption and foster care in this pursuit as well, hopefully starting many communities that embrace this passion to see the command found in James to care for orphans and widows.

We are quite excited and see the Lord in this, so much so, that we are removing some things from our lives that have provided some financial stability, though keeping my full time job.  I have also had to put away ideas of what my life in ministry would look like to walk in the mission the Lord has given my family. My amazing wife had encouraged me to do this for so long, it’s an absolute blessing that her patience and grace had reached through the “me” in my vision of service. 

This will be a fast transition for us, but one we cannot wait to get walking in. We covet your prayers as we face the task of relocating, finding partners in our vision for our new community, a home church for us to give to and partner with in this vision, and for all the things in the future we seek to see the Lord do.

We love you all,

The Hewitt Family

True Love

Today is Valentines Day. Rachel and I have never celebrated Valentines Day in the traditional way. If we go out to dinner, it’s because we would go out to dinner anyway. We do not need a made up holiday to remember that we love each other.

On this Valentines Day, however; I have been really focused on love, and specifically the love of adoption. I woke up this morning to my smiling (alright screaming) little man. I got an amazing hug from him as he declared “Daddy, it’s Thanksgiving!” After a quick correction, and a discussion about Valentines Day, he gave me another amazing hug. I told him to give Mommy one, and he said “No, La-La (Elaina) is my Valentine, she gets all my hugs.” I just love that kid to pieces. Adoption made my family so much better, because I got to experience the love of such a wonderful child. God gave so much to me because of him. Rachel and I advocate for adoption exactly for this reason: people need to be blessed by children who need love (to give and receive), and the receiving part is always the bigger blessing.

Adoption is also the perfect picture of what God did for His people. Ephesians 1:3-6 maybe the passage I most identify with in all of Scripture, because Rachel and I have been blessed with adoption of a son.

Blessed is the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms in Christ. For he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world that we may be holy and unblemished in his sight in love. He did this by predestining us to adoption as his sons through Jesus Christ, according to the pleasure of his will— to the praise of the glory of his grace that he has freely bestowed on us in his dearly loved Son.

Think about the process of adoption for a second: people choose to bring a child that is not theirs into their home: to love them, to raise them, to train them, and when the parents die, to bless them as their own child. To me, it seems like the purest act of love. God showed people His heart, expressed through the tangible process of adoption. This is what God chose to do for His people. God chose His people, He loves his people, He brings us into His family, He trains us, and He gives us an inheritance. It was an act of pure love completely on God’s part. We are His, and He loves so very well.

On this day, I remember that I have been blessed supremely in my relationships with my wife, and my wonderful children. I get the unmitigated blessing of having all my children, regardless of how they were brought into my family. I am so thankful that the feelings of love and joy that I have for my son through adoption, are the same feelings God has for me (times a billion), and that I am truly loved.

Today can be tough for many, but I want to encourage you with the idea that God chose to love, and His love is available through His Son because He chose to reconcile His people. Do not settle for the lies that no one loves you, or that the love of God isn’t as good as the love of a [man, woman, child, mother, father, dog, etc…]. You are not outside it, too far from it, or unable to receive it. He calls and He makes you His own. His love is the best, and all you really need to the praise of His glorious grace.

Just a note to my amazing wife today: thank you for taking me on this journey of life, but specifically for the calling to adopt. Your heart is huge, and I love that I get to experience you completely. You are certainly a picture of God’s love to me!


The Seed of the Woman

The first three chapters of the Book of Genesis set the stage for the drama that unfolds throughout the rest of the Bible. We have the overview of Creation: God making everything ex nihilo, culminating with the creation of humans. The second chapter is a recapitulation of the first chapter, and concludes with the institution of marriage. In chapter three the conflict is presented that will frame the main struggle for the rest of the Bible: people reject God and elevate themselves into His place. This decision by Adam and Eve to sin brought the consequence of separation and struggle for the remainder of their (and by extension, our) existence. The key verse is Genesis 3:15 where God tells the serpent that the “seed of the woman will bruise his head,” while the serpent would “bruise his heel.” This is commonly called the protoevangelium where deliverance from the punishments given is promised.

I think we often miss the point; however, of what is really going on in this passage and throughout the rest of Genesis. When we read Genesis, it is easy to overlook certain things because they are confusing (the names of people, and family relationships, and just what are the Nephilim?), but one word that we can easily miss is the Hebrew word transliterated toledoth which is found throughout the book. The word means “generations,” and gives us the insight to what God is really talking about, the continuation of the generations of “the woman” to get the promised seed. It is one of the the themes of Genesis, and the meta-narrative of the Scripture – preservation of the Seed of woman. This is why Genesis records the family lines the way it does, and why there is always tension that the seed might be forsaken, or lost (the Flood, Jacob/Esau, Joseph). Missing the idea that the Seed is the most important thing, allows us to misapply and wrongly conclude many things from Genesis 1-3.

Why is this important, or what is an application for rightly understanding the seed theme of Genesis? One of the primary arguments for women being submissive to men comes from Genesis 1-3, and Paul’s argumentation in his writings that God instituted a created order. Specifically cited is the statement of God in Genesis 3:16

To the woman He said,
‘I will greatly multiply
Your pain in childbirth,
In pain you will bring forth children;
Yet your desire will be for your husband,
And he will rule over you.'”

First, notice what is in view: childbearing. God is reinforcing the idea that the seed is primary, stating that even though there will be pain in bearing children, your desire will be for your husband. This statement has given rise to many ideas about the nature of women: they were built to be co-dependent, they have to have a man, they want to dominate men (read this passage in the NET), etc… The seemingly obvious conclusion based on the theme of Genesis, is that God is referring to the need to procreate and make more “seeds.” Despite the pain in childbirth the woman, and other women, will seek to have children.

Secondly, God says “and he [her husband] will rule over you.” Notice that everything in the passage from 14-19 is a new punishment, and changes the original design that God had planned. At the end of Genesis 2, the husband and the wife are one, but now in Genesis 3:16 they are separated. When they are one, the preservation of the human race would not seem to be an issue; however, when they are separated by their desires, the safety of the seed is in doubt. The woman (the helper from 2:18, his corresponding sexual partner), will suffer for the seed; but will be brought back to her husband for its sustenance (this is part of the promise of deliverance in the midst of the Curse). The rule of a husband over his wife, is not part of the marriage relationship until the Curse is given; and as a punishment a man’s rule will put the seed in jeopardy also, because it creates a struggle in the relationship.

From this point on, the struggle for the seeds protection graces the pages of Scripture, culminating in Jesus. If we miss that fact, it is very easy to turn to Genesis 3, see that a man will rule over his wife, and conclude that it is good and proper. God’s design was very different. He wanted husband and wife to be one, not in a hierarchical struggle, but truly one entity. Understanding the story of Scripture, and this one major theme, helps us to get to the right conclusion from Genesis 3:16: Fight against the punishment for sin that causes men to rule their wives, and seek to be one in Christ.

It is high time that evangelicals repudiated the idea that husbands are meant to rule their wives. Rule was a judgement not an endorsement. The Lord wants one thing above all others in our marriages: oneness. The unity of the husband and wife, sex and the continuance of the seed both declare that God’s promise is fulfilled: the seed will come and crush the serpent.



I Am the Famous One

My wife and I discuss the state of the Church quite a bit. Having been involved in many facets of ministry for our entire marriage, it’s just something we do. I know that there is now a clamor among all those reading this to get in on these amazing conversations, but you are probably not cool enough. HOWEVER, feel free to start one next time we are hanging out!

One of the things that we come back to over and over is the rampant idolatry in our church settings. When I hear the word “idolatry,” I think of a bunch of people gathered around a golden idol. They bow down and worship it, expecting it to do magic tricks for them. The thought is almost so humorous it can be difficult for me to really identify with it. When I am being “spiritual,” my mind runs to Israel in the Old Testament as they constantly struggled with idol worship. Just reading the book of Judges, will make your head spin with their constant merry-go-round of idol worship-repent-deliverance-repeat. We do not identify with this either, because most of us aren’t dabbling in the polytheistic religions of the Ancient Near East, and we think we are superior to the Jews because of the whole New Covenant thing.

However, I think we are equally as idolatrous as the Jews were. 

The difference between the modern church and other idolaters is the object of what we worship, not that we are somehow devoid of idolatry. We don’t worship sticks, or objects, or a pantheon of gods and goddess; but we do worship things in the place of God. While there are many, many idols I could focus on for this discussion; the one that has really been bothering me for some time is “Celebrity Christianity.” I picked just a few reasons why I think this has been, and will be severely damaging to the American church.

The first is that it is antithetical to how Jesus lived. Jesus was sought out by crowds, but He never sought the crowds to build His brand. Jesus told people to keep quiet about Him. How many Celebrity Christians does that sound like? Jesus was concerned about one thing: the Kingdom. Celebrity turns very quickly into being concerned with one thing also: our kingdom. If we claim to be Christ-followers, shouldn’t we follow Christ?

Secondly, Celebrity Christianity teaches people that there are levels of Christians. The famous ones are looked up, everyone else is just ordinary. The truth of Scripture teaches us that no Christian is better or worse than any other. In fact, the Bible teaches us that there aren’t good and bad people, just bad people and a good God. Paul rebukes this type of foolishness, especially when it comes to factions caused by worshipping people other than Christ.

Lastly, the idea of Celebrity pushes people away from THE place of discipleship and growth: the local church. Celebrity teaching replaces pastoral teaching and involvement in the Missio Dei, because one no longer has to be involved in a church to get “solid teaching.” I believe one of the reasons the local church is declining is because people no longer NEED to be connected: get your spiritual scraps from the Celebrity’s table; and you are alleviated from the burden of having to be in the messiness of church life. This also leads to the idea that these famous people speak for Christianity as a whole. There are many people I respect who are “big names” in the Christian sub-culture, but I agree with none of them on everything. This is insidious because people hear a Celebrity Christian speak and do not bother to study to even see if they agree with them; especially when it mirrors their own presuppositions or feelings.

Rachel and I have been talking about this for a long time, and I don’t know that I have a solution. Americans seem to need to fixate on someone/something they can worship that is real. The only way to reverse course is not to miss the fact that God was tangible, and still is if we walk in His truth, and are His hands and feet. God is tangible when we decide we aren’t all that important, and push everything aside to elevate His name. God is still very real when we recognize the truth that the local church is more important than conferences, and conference speakers, and is THE engine for real discipleship. God is the only suitable object for our worship.

We must repent and seek Him, not our brand, not our “hero,” and not ourselves.


Review: The Polygamist’s Daughter


My wife has lots of really cool friends and some of her friends are writers. This is really cool because she often gets books in advance that she reads and reviews. Recently, her friend Anna LeBaron (FacebookTwitter) wrote a memoir about her life and how she escaped a polygamist cult. This is not a book that I normally would read but I picked it up and read the first few pages, and I was hooked.

The story is about Anna’s life from a young age, and details the ins and outs of her experience. Her story is riveting, and captures you from the first few chapters. I have always been curious of life inside these cults. I have watched documentaries on Jonestown and David Koresh; but this story was unique because it comes through the eyes of a child who grew up in this environment. Her story is full of tension, fear, heartache, and shows the struggle that she went through to survive. Her journey is one that we can all relate to in some form or fashion, and it culminates with her finding God through His Son Jesus Christ.

There are many people in her story who helped her along the way, but what I loved most about this book was that the hero of it is definitely Jesus. You can see how He protected her, and provided deliverance even before she knew Him as her Savior. Anna was open with the struggles she had both during and after her time in the cult. Experiences like hers leave scars, and she is open with the process it took for her to deal with them. It’s abundantly clear that the physical, mental, and emotional healing she needed, she received through God’s loving care, and the ministry of His people. Seeing her walk through the struggles she had after her escape should give hope to all of us who have been through literal hell on earth at some point in our lives. God loved and pursued her, that is clear; and He does the same for all His children.

I loved this book and would recommend it to anyone!

You can buy the book Here.

You can read more about Anna’s father here

We Must Grasp God’s Word

I am probably the worst person to attend your church if you are a preacher. I analyze everything you say. I research everything you teach. When I disagree with you, you are going to know, especially if it’s a Bible issue. I also cannot hide my thoughts on what you are saying well (my face shows if I think you are crazy). I have received many an elbow from my sweet wife when my displeasure with someone’s statements becomes too visible. I like to think this comes from preaching/teaching/studying for so long, and being so very wise (sometimes I am just a jerk to be honest). I have a low tolerance for deviation what I think is Scriptural. Some think this is bad, but I think it is actually a good thing, and one I want to encourage people to engage in.

I believe that much of what we believe about Christianity is based on other people’s opinions of what Christianity is. Those people are often parents, mentors, small group leaders/members, and primarily pastors. We trust these people, and their opinions on the Faith matter to us. For most believers, this is the bedrock of what they believe. Unfortunately, this can often lead us astray, especially when the opinions of the people we trust are based on other people’s opinions, which may or may not be based on Scripture. We can quickly build a regress of thought, which we think is great; but is based on nothing more than conjecture by some old guy a few hundred years ago. As Christians, we should desire all our beliefs to be Biblically sourced.

We believe in the Trinity, for example, because someone told us it was true, threw some Bible verses at us, and made it sound good (maybe they threw in the word Orthodox as well). Most of us are probably unaware that the word “trinity” does not appear in the Scripture, nor are we aware of two guys who made a big deal about it (Athanasius and Arius) a few hundred years after Jesus’ death. Many of us don’t know that until 325 AD no formal declaration of Christ’s deity was stated by the church, and that it wasn’t until the Council of Constantinople, 60ish years later, that the formal doctrine of the Trinity existed (though the Trinitarian understanding existed very early in church history). We take it for granted, which is great, but we have lost hold of it somehow due to a lack of personal investment in learning it for ourselves.

I was in church not too long ago, and a worship song was sung that talked about how God created Jesus, which most theologians would define as anti-Trinitarian Arianism. People sang this song, got their worship on, and never gave thought to the idea that they were promulgating an ancient heresy condemned by the church for 1700ish years. I am reasonably sure that all in attendance would say they believed in the trinity, but it was not grasped enough to know what it meant. If so, the emotional investment and enjoyment of this song would have been replaced by revulsion. Pastors, leaders, teachers, and regular old church people demoted Jesus in a single phrase. Granted the Trinity is hard to understand, and I don’t believe any of us will fully grasp it this side of heaven, but we SHOULD know that Jesus exists eternally (Apostle’s Creed, Nicene Creed). We are not Christian if we do not know that. This is the problem with unstudied beliefs. We don’t really know them, and because we do not, it is easy to be led astray.

The Bible is the source and authority for belief in the Christian faith. We should only believe what it says, not what our pastor thinks it says, or you think it says, or even what I think it says. Many of us accept the words of people over the Word of God because we are too lazy to do the reading and the studying, so we can do the grasping and internalizing. I want to encourage you to analyze and study the teachings that you hear from the Bible. Do not accept the old line “the Bible says” without researching what the Bible actually says. This leads to people who say they believe a lot of things, but live like they believe very little of them. This will take work, if you are going to do it right; but at the end of the day you will KNOW what you believe, and grasp it. The grasping is where action will follow belief, because you have become convinced by the Truth.





The Sweet Spot

Rachel and I got our start in church planting in the later half of the last decade. I was in the process of graduating from Seminary, we did not really find any cushy church jobs to take (I am NOT a youth pastor), and I connected with a church-planting group in Virginia. We talked, we prayed, and we planted. We experienced the ups and downs that most every plant walks through; we navigated some well, and some not so well. We had a ton of fun, and we had a ton of sorrow. After three years, our church was no longer viable. We had no money, no staff, and most of our team had transitioned out. This is a common thing in the church-planting world. Churches start, and churches fail. We fell into the “ran out of time” failure reason: like a baby with a critical disease, we just didn’t have enough life behind us to fight off the problems we faced.

We are almost a decade removed from that time, so I probably have a better view now. One of the things that I have struggled with is the statistic that we learned before we planted, and experienced: over 50% of your team that you planted with, will not be there 1-3 years later. It seems to me this is a gigantic problem. The people you are on mission with, suddenly no longer feel like the church they poured their blood, sweat, and tears into, is for them. I have put some effort into figuring out why this is. When I look at my first planting experience, I notice an almost duplicitous aspect in my actions. In order to start our church, we recruited friends, and friends of friends. We spent time talking, dreaming, planning. We spent time together doing life. We were on a mission and we were excited about. Then something changed. We had to launch a church. Those sweet times where we invested in each other were gone, and replaced by the church grind. Once that happened, the times that I cherished most were gone. I wish I had known that  time spent planning was the most authentic church I have ever experienced. Now I don’t know that this was the reason that our team moved on, but I do know that when we launched it never felt the same as when we were together in my living room. I wasn’t mature enough then, I hadn’t seen enough or lived enough to know that WE HAD CHURCH right there. (Let’s be honest, no planter goes out and dreams of planting a church of 20 or 40 with all the dang kids we had J). There are many, many things I wish I could do over again, but pushing and moving our team into “church” eats at me more than most.

As planters we are always told that more is better. We need to recruit more people, raise more money, have THE BEST worship experience; the drive is always more and bigger. I disagree strongly with this idea at this stage of my ministry. What is the best is to be on mission with a team; a team you can pour into, be real with, and love doing life with. Let me encourage the planter who may be where Rachel and I were so many years ago with this thought: Jesus loves you, and He wants your ministry to be successful. Remember though: He defines the ministry; He defines success. It may not look like you want it to; it may not be the envy of all your friends from Seminary, and it may not ever get you on stage at Exponential teaching. Take it from me, no matter what the sweet spot is, it is better than living with the “I wish I would have’s.”